Any kind of mental or sentimental condition may be succeeded by repeating a concrete pattern. Socrates said that in order to learn something forever, you would need to repeat it 7 times.
The moment you realize that you experiencing a situation that you do not like, either because you created it or because it was incepted, you need to get out of it! But, how could you untrain a habitual behavior?
You may start by thinking of the ideal opposite. Keep that thought for 1′. Repeat that the following day and add 1′ more, and so on. By that, you succeed two things. You disrupt a reality you created or accepted which you do not like and you claim a new one.
I fully understand it’s painful and difficult to do it. Actually, it is your habitual persona that will not allow you to start. What should you expect? You will change. Your relationship with your significant one will improve. Your business and income will increase. Your body will change. Your universe will follow your new rhythm. YOU will be living a life you selected to!
Remember… the most ancient darkness vanishes in front of a single candle.